How do some people absolutely never get salty :p
I need help getting less salty :p I've tried but I'm just seemingly incapable of improving my mood. Can some people give me some kind of help with this ;( [zombie-nunu-tears]
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For me, it's less about 'not being salty' as it is 'not acting salty'... totally normal to feel the feelings! I just try not to let it define who I am in-game. Like you, I prefer not to /mute [fomo much?... *roll eyes], but instead will do my best to keep on keeping on with my good sportsmanship~
Half the time I am ヾ(´▽｀;)ゝ and (｡♥‿♥｡) in-game, I am prolly actually ( ≧Д≦) and (ﾉ｀Д)ﾉ:・’∵:.┻┻ IRL.
This way, you avoid escalating any existing negative situations, and you can feel good about having handled that match like a zen master. Plus, you'll be much more likely to get honor'd for that behavior!
As others've mentioned, this applies to much of life outside of LoL [yes, there's life outside of LoL]...
It takes practice, but you'll get it down with time. I belieeeeeve.
Remember these words of wisdom: http://e.lvme.me/iqadxgh.jpg
I dunno. I just have a built in lack of ducks to give. It's just how I am.
But here is something you can try. Next time you get salty, stop, count to 3, and then remind yourself that during that time you counted to 3 the world kept going. So whatever it was you were salty about turned out not to matter at all.
The downside is you might fall into the opposite spectrum when you realize that nothing anyone does matters at all, that the world will keep going with or without you and that our lives are meaningless.
I like to play certain champions in character to avoid this. Playing Rammus and only typing "ok" to anything my team says is entertaining and stress relieving in itself. Same goes with Sona where I only type "...".
Always be polite, even if someone else is being an ass. Just keep reminding yourself that they have their own frustrations, possibly even more valid than your own.
Take breaks from competitive matches if you are feeling stressed, even if it's just playing bots having an easy win or a game you don't care about is good to calm you down.
Always try to keep criticism to a minimum, and make sure it stays constructive. It also helps to target the team as a whole instead of one single person (even if they are primarily the problem). If someone is doing poorly they are probably very aware of that and will be more likely to take anything you say about them more harshly, and thus be more likely to try to argue with you.
Finally just always ask yourself, "would I appreciate being on the receiving end of what I am about to say?", and if the answer is no don't say it. Frustration is normal and healthy, just try to remember everyone else is probably frustrated too and that venting that frustration will probably only make a bad situation worse, for everyone.
/mute all
http://i.imgur.com/5ok9VKK.jpg?1 Seriusly tho... Just do what i do... Just think that everyone is gonna disappoint you, that way you wont get mad when they do, since you expect it, you can work through it.
Run a desalination process.
Anger and frustration are normal human emotions, especially within team competition. Stop believing that this is a negative trait. Lyte has convinced some of this community that frustration is not normal. He is an idiot, and probably has little experience actually dealing with people. Just don't type.
If someone says something toxic to you, it's best to just not respond. Even if you respectfully assume they're intelligent and rational enough to understand that there was just a lot of context that they weren't aware of and if you simply and calmly paraphrased it to them that they would calm down. It just isn't the case, there are loads of people out there who are just angry and don't want to be rational, they're angry for reasons outside of the game and so simple things just trigger all that emotion. Also you could be dealing with some 11--12 yr old and just imagine that for a second. Do you really want to be arguing with someone like that?
If you're salty about other teammates' performance, just always ask yourself first: Is what I want to say going to benefit the team or is it just going to satisfy MY ego. ("We're going to lose this game so I might as well take it out on who I think is responsible to feel better about myself and make sure everyone else is aware that I had nothing to do with this loss.")
Being polite is professional from a completely objective standpoint.
ok honestly here i have the same problem you do. What i do is /mute all in the beginning of the game. or try playing when your in a good mood not in a bad (that's when i get the most salty at this game). Third just be nice calm and try having a good time while playing.
Well you're from NA so you can't get rid of the sodium, but you can just avoid chloride based products in your diet.
I don't know about you but when RL sucks, it affects you in-game too. If you have things dogging you before you even log in it's going to be that much harder to hold it together. Been in therapy for ~10+ years now and I'm finally starting to learn that you can't control other people. All you can control is you and even then it's hard. I still yell and slam my fist down on my chair but I'm flinging less of my anger at other people. Pick your battles. In context that means pretty much never arguing because if someone's determined to be a certain way you won't win no matter what you do. And the best advice anyone can ever give you is: when you absolutely can't take it anymore, turn it the hell off and do something else.
Personally for me (because I am a very salty person) I cuss, and rant outside of game, but I'm totally silent in chat. I KNOW if I hit that enter key I'm gonna say something rude or vulgar. So I basically just don't talk unless I'm calling a flash or asking about an objective.
Realize that League isn't everything in your life. Sometimes it just means you might need to do some more physical activity with all of that adrenaline. If you're anything like me - the games get the adrenaline going and it's like an IV drip of pure energy that needs to be released in a healthy manner in the real world rather than misdirected at teammates or in smack-talk. I've been guilty of the salt more times than I'd like to admit. Remember it's just a game and in the end - a wicked community of people that share a common interest. Great year Riot.
Thank you from the bottom of this old grumpy gamers' heart.
Electrolysis
It's simple. You play the best you can in the given situation. And you learn things. Winning and losing do not matter at all, as after enough games your rank will just tend towards where it should be, given how good you are. Just worry about getting better. You'll soon notice your rank was probably higher than it was before if you can just ignore it for long enough.
I find that it can be difficult balancing my desire to win with my needing to accept defeat. If you are certain that you are going to lose then there isn't really a reason to get upset over something that is out of your control. On the flip side if you are on the edge between winning and losing and your teammates keep making stupid mistakes, getting angry and typing in chat generally tilts the team and your team loses anyway.
I always try to focus on the positives. If my lane did well and other lanes fed, I focus on the fact that I did a good job and the loss wasn't entirely my fault. If I am doing poorly I normally apologize to my team and try to focus on improving and making smarter decisions. I also try practice different tactics to see if there are good ways to come back in a losing match.
I had one match where for 15 mins my team was working really well and taking objectives. All of a sudden they got really cocky and started solo roaming in the enemy bush and trying to 1v3. For about 10 mins my team fed, got no objectives, and we completely lost our lead. During that time I was saying things like, "we might need more wards, we should probably group, try not to wander in their jungle or fight one at a time." Finally our jungle started raging at me, saying I needed to shut the FK up and why should he listen to an unranked noob. So I apologized to him and said I just wanted the team to work together. Surprisingly we ended up working together to take objectives and won the match :).
Try putting your hands of the keyboard after you die, and if you get salty during a team fight. Remember that there are other individuals to worry about. Just try to focus on the cs or if you tea fight the next target. Going back to base remember that your team needs you. Go where ever the fight is or to your lane for pushing/csing and than take your hands off. I am almost aggressive every game but i don't show it because i still respect the individual. And if you write don't make long sentenes, rather short qeues of what to do. for example (blue>group than baron) so you don't waste precious time and most except these writing styls
THANKS EVERYOHNE FOR THE HUGE AMOUNTS OF SUPPORT :'D I NEVER THOUGHT I COULD PUT SOMETHING SO HUGE ON THE BOARDS :P I'm really shocked at he feedback.[slayer-pantheon-rainbows]
Git gud... Just kidding.
Salt is unavoidable, acting salty is a choice. Just conceal, don't feel.
And when you get that dope ult that lands you a triple kill...
LET IT GOOOOOOOO
One important thing in keeping a level hold of your life is to diversify your interests. Be active in trying new things and enjoying a variety of activities. Play different games, take up some kind of sport or art, engage in a variety of media, talk to different people and actually try to understand the things they enjoy and their perspectives on life. Learning stuff is fun and rewarding, despite what you may have been taught in school. It's too easy to delve into our own little holes with the easy convenience of the internet. We become worse as people when we aren't constantly trying new things and going new places.
When you obsess over one thing all of the time, you start to view little meaningless transgressions as a much bigger deal than they need be. Take League, for example. That ad carry on your team who can't get cs is ruining your day, the ragers on your team actually have any value to your life, Riot is personally dealing you an affront when they nerf your main. All self-serving thoughts that tend to emerge when your identity is tied to one thing in your life.
if you get mad just keep in mind. its just a game
As a fun note I had a friend who had saltyness problems. When things got tense I would hear him go off on the keyboard, clacking away at some biting response.. then he would hold the backspace button and erase it all XD