Why do some LoL girls start ignoring me for no reason but dont unfriend?

AmazingChad·5/1/2017, 12:27:49 AM·4 votes·2,100 views

Theres α common trend that hαppens with many girls I αdd on leαgue of legends/twitch.tv : Mαny of them go into this phαse where they ignore me even though I'm their friend list. Like wth, why don't you unfriend me if you're not going to tαlk to me. It mαkes no sense and it pisses me off becαuse its not like they're busy. I αm 100% SURE some of them do it intentionαlly. Heres how the interαction goes: I messαge them by sαying "hi, whαts up" and then I don't get α response. This hαppens αt leαst 10 times in α spαn of α couple of months. If you don't want to tαlk to me, then unfriend me so you cαn stop wαsting my time. I'd much rather talk to someone who wants to develop a friendship with me, not to be used like α tissue paper and thrown αwαy. Furthermore, they treat you like you're not human or as if you're at their beck and call. Its ridiculous and its as if I'm talking to a kid. (Keep in mind that these are girls that are at least 18 years old) Adults don't do that in the real world.

EDIT: After reading through many comments, I'm really disappointed in how ignorant some of you guys are. I get it, "the internet isn't a place to make friends" is the common belief and thats fine that you think that way. BUT, as someone who has been in alot of gaming communities and actually interacted with countless people over teamspeak/vent, I can say that there are actually people just like me who want make a friend or two online. Playing with more people makes the game more fun and I've met many who were just like me who were like "life is life but everyone gets home from school/work/etc and gets on the computer, we're all just playing games together".

41 Comments

Seth the Green5/1/2017, 12:52:53 AM5 votes

Stop talking to them just because they are girls. They are here to play the game, not get hit on

This isnt gamersonly.com

Niyumi5/1/2017, 12:32:53 AM4 votes

Some people are too nice to just remove you. So they just act like they're always AFK, so they don't have to tell you to go away.

RefinedTableSalt5/1/2017, 1:49:25 AM4 votes

"I guess the online gaming community isn't a good place to find friends if people are going to be like this."

First of all just because a handful of girls don't want to talk to you doesn't mean the entire community is the same, really now. That first was a pretty douche-y thing to say, but given that it's the internet it will be overlooked.

"Adults don't do that in the real world" "At least 18"

Son just because they're 18 doesn't mean that their switches have been flipped and are instantly acting like they're in their 30s, it's "eigh-TEEN" not even out of the teens yet, come on. (If you think all adults "in the real world" don't talk down to you or do any of the above that you whined about then you're in for a surprise.)

"...I add on league and twitch..."

Before everything, as you have said in the below, you aren't thirsty or not everyone is like that (even though you did the exact opposite of the "not everyone is like that" argument by saying "I guess the online gaming community isn't a good place to find friends if people are going to be like this.") Also the fact that YOU added them, not the other way around, and from what I can tell: not even after playing a match with or against them, sounds quite thirsty. More often than not, most people on twitch won't play with you or talk because they're busy with friends they already have, making friends isn't a one sided thing, they have to want to be friends too.

"I'd much rather talk to someone who wants to develop a friendship with me, not to be used like α tissue paper and thrown αwαy. "

That's your own fault, if you add someone out of the blue (not even after a match) then more than likely they'll either decline, or accept out of being nice in general, but that doesnt mean that once you're on the friends list you click and become best friends, or that they're obliged to talk to you everytime, you also have to wonder if they really want to be friends with you. Also how, pray tell did they use you? Throw you away? that's a bit far fetched, and if you bought them rp or some other dumb thing like that without really knowing them, well, that's your fault.

"...then unfriend me so you cαn stop wαsting my time."

You must realize by now if I had all the time in the world I would pick your post apart.

From my point of view, and I'm sure most would agree with me: you're wasting their time. This ties in to my above statement where they aren't obliged to talk to you, and if they ignore you they're probably doing or talking to someone of more importance than some random boy who added them. (You must realize that a good chunk of friends made in league are ones added after matches, other wise is just kinda creepy.)

"This hαppens αt leαst 10 times in α spαn of α couple of months."

Well if you keep LOOKING SPECIFICALLY for girls then yes it will happen, and that makes you thirsty, literally just play the game for god's sake, make friends that way, and mind you there are nice blokes out there too. (The fact that it's just girls is telling of thirstiness.)

If you want to solely make friends (outside of league, not teammates or play mates) then go on tinder or some other site and do it there. But if you are going to whine about girls YOU added on league for seemingly no reason, then kindly stop.

(The same goes for males you add, if you add any, usually if they don't add you or you don't add them AFTER A MATCH, it's a sign they don't want to be friends.)

Now go and apply what you've learned to yourself.

Happy playing and may solo q be ever in your favor.

Bobbinson5/1/2017, 2:43:18 AM3 votes

this is some next level sad life

Lexyy5/1/2017, 12:35:15 AM3 votes

You sound thirsty..... maybe that's why lol.

Also, most people dont care about their friends list.... and dont bother cleaning it up. To them you are just a weirdo who wants to talk to them just because they're girls lol.

FreeVolibear5/4/2017, 6:42:21 PM2 votes

Letting you in on a secret that shouldn't be so secret. No woman/girl is obligated to talk to you, anymore than you are obligated to talk to anyone. Whether they are busy, not busy, blowing you off, or whatever, it is their prerogative. The sooner you learn that, the better off you will be. TBH your complaints comes off as needy, demanding, and self entitled. I feel pretty confident that this attitude comes across to girls you chat with on the internet. For some reason, just because a guy sees a girl on the net, he automatically assumes she is there to boost his ego. Trust me when i say that scores of guys just like you are also trying to get their attention. Are they supposed to exhaust themselves satisfying each and every chat demand from every guy that wants their attention? Doesn't make much sense does it?

trashbagz5/1/2017, 1:56:00 AM2 votes

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Wolfess5/1/2017, 12:29:41 AM1 votes

maybe they want to keep you on the list so they know when to try to avoid queuing up.