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Words hurt. Did you know that?

rtbf211279518·5/19/2015, 10:27:41 PM·47 votes·4,512 views

TL;DR : Read the title if you don't wanna read the post. If you've got something rude to say, read the entire thing. If you're gonna agree, then go ahead. Any and all slanders are welcome.

We all know that saying, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." Anyone not know that? Because if someone in your life has told you this, THEY ARE WRONG. Words hurt, all the time.

For all those people who like to sit back and talk trash, you know what, that's your deal man. If you think being on the internet makes you some sort of god, then go ahead, keep boosting your ego. It's just a real shame that your ego won't actually transfer over into real life. You totally want to walk up to your boss and go, "Hey loser, why don't you go fuck yourself? While you're at it, I hope your mom gets cancer!" You'd be out of a job real quick. You know what, there's no one regulating what you say on the internet, but that shit comes back real quick when you make a mistake in real life. Oh, you posted on Facebook a while ago that you found some people who suck ass at a game, you wish they'd go die in a hole somewhere? Who's going to hire someone who is obviously SCUM?

Secondly, those people who actually wish for people's lives to become riddled with catastrophe, I really hope you're proud of yourself. Look at you big man, a 16-30 year old man/woman telling other 16-30 year old men/women that you hope they go die in a ditch, or that their mom gets cancer. Congrats! You've probably told a suicidal 16 year old to go die in a hole where no one will find his body, and that you hope maggots will crawl and breed inside his rotting decomposing heart. Do you think he won't do it? Oh, and before you say, "Oh, the internet is riddled with little pussies who need to crawl back to mommy in order to feel loved." Let me ask you something, if you ever have children, and someone says that to your kid, would you be upset, or no? As a side note, do you love your kids? Do you give them the proper attention they deserve? Or would you rather insult kids who are 14 years younger than you are, over the internet, rather then spend time with the people who really matter?

Third, if you're going around and just being toxic, why can't you go out and do it real life? Does sitting behind an electronic screen make you something powerful? We're all sitting behind a screen, how come we're not acting like an asshole? It probably has something to do with a little something called self-decency. As in, we were raised proper, and decided that going out and making other people feel miserable about their lives probably isn't productive.

Fourth, there is a little something called empathy in this world. It's being able to relate to other peoples' feelings, regardless of whether or not you know them. If you go around being toxic, then you obviously have no empathy, because you obviously don't care that there are other people who play this game, who also have feelings as well.

Fifth, if you're going to be salty about the tiniest thing, then you have no chill. Simple as that. Not saying that being salty is wrong. If salt was wrong, we wouldn't need it. However, if you're going to be salty right off the bat, then you need to take a break from this game. Going into a game with the mentality that you're the next Faker or something, and that all of your teammates suck, is the WRONG MENTALITY. Go take a breather or something.

Sixth, if you're going to post a response to this, and you don't like what I've said, you better have a damn good reason for us to fight about, because I'd really love to hear something from someone who apparently can't find it in his or her heart to not act like a civilized person on the internet, knowing that what they're doing is causing other people misery.

Edit: Made six paragraphs, just for you Akeydel.

141 Comments

IcyPepper5/19/2015, 11:24:06 PM11 votes

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me."

I used to believe this until someone threw a dictionary at me.

But otherwise, you're right OP.

Krigjer5/19/2015, 11:01:04 PM9 votes

I agree 1000% with this post.

But I absolutely hate people that tell others to kill themselves, or wish ill on their health/family. This does nothing. I've reported every single person that I see telling other people this. It doesn't bother me, but what if they said this to someone that takes them seriously? These people don't care for the feelings of others. They shouldn't be playing with real people at all if this is how they react to a video game.

AeroWaffle5/19/2015, 11:30:10 PM7 votes

The issue has and always will be, accountability. Socially unacceptable behavior (irl) is kept in check by reputation.

You be a dick to someone that resides in your immediate area? That someone is unlikely to do you any favors. This person is also likely to tell other people what happen, generating even more of a negative reputation. While it's true there are some whom don't care about their reputation in real life, but even then they usually keep a low profile on how much of a dick they are, for the sake of making sure not to anger someone that can really cause some damage (like their boss).

This pretty much goes out the window when you're an anonymous entity on the internet. The most that can happen to you here for being a dick is losing access to your game account. Whoop-de-do.

slippykitten5/20/2015, 4:26:14 PM5 votes

So herein lies the greatest question - Why do words hurt?

That 'why' is very important. No chirping bird or barking dog offends you, so what gives words such weight?

Three main things give words weight.

  1. The meaning of the words. You could say all manner of evil against me in Latin and it wont mean a thing to me. Colloquialisms play a big part as well. "I'm wearing a wife beater" means i have a white tank top on, not that i have murdered a man who beats his wife and am wearing his skin

  2. The source of the words - If a random stranger walks up to me on the street and says "i've never loved you!" I'm just going to walk away quickly, but if my mother tells me that, I'm going to be upset.

  3. The emotional state of the hearer (or the atmosphere surrounding the conversation) - If my buddy is trying to pinch my nipples and i tell him to "fuck off" we laugh and have a good time. If i say the same thing to my daughter when she is trying to give me hug after she hurt herself, the effect is quite different.

So the issue is why these words are hurting and how these three elements affect anonymous conversation in a video game.

  1. The meaning of words are often misunderstood. Someone may say "kill yourself" as a joke to stop playing or that you are done, not to actually kill yourself. I'm not saying that it is right to say that, I'm saying that words are often misunderstood across text from anonymous sources.

  2. This one is a big offender. Some believe that because you have never met them, and will never, that their words should not ever be taken seriously enough to cause harm.

  3. Who are you talking to? are you speaking to a mentally stable adult man, or an emotionally fragile little girl? You would certainly speak differently to the two.

So then, do we speak gently to all, believing the worst can be taken from our words, or do we speak more harsh because anonymous words in a video game SHOULDN'T affect people deeply?

I can tell you my opinion, but me being an anonymous person writing on an internet gaming forum, you probably don't care.

Salisimo5/20/2015, 1:32:11 AM4 votes

Yes, words can definitely hurt

Chaotic Reks5/20/2015, 3:33:28 AM4 votes

"sticks and stones may break my bones but words leave psychological scars that never heal" - Somebody

CaesarFlickerman5/20/2015, 2:25:07 PM3 votes

There are way too many tools in this game to mitigate that kind of nonsense from the get go. Muting is much more powerful than you think, as the person you muted isn't even aware that you're not listening to them.

Yes, words hurt (I guess, for the sake of argument, sure), but you're interacting with a total stranger whom you will never meet or come into contact with. That being said, their opinion of you as a person should have no impact on your life outside of that one game of SR or ARAM.

It's a little silly to me to hold on to these types of things, but I do agree that some people are out of control about it.

Maratsune5/20/2015, 4:51:58 AM3 votes

I find it really hard to believe a lot of the shit that people say on this game. Do they think it's a joke? Haha, rape joke. Hilarious. Cancer? WHAT A LAUGH.

I don't understand. I could be positively furious about something, but I don't think I'd ever be able to drop to such levels with a clear conscience.

ZephyrDrake5/20/2015, 1:03:50 PM3 votes

the entire point of that saying is that even if they insult you they cannot actually harm you with it unless you allowed whatever it is they are saying to you actually affect you. You should just ignore those type of people as much as possible if they start acting like that. The game actually even makes it a lot easier for you by adding the MUTE feature. Why would you not mute someone who is flaming/cursing/insulting you? The only reason for you to not mute them is because you actually like being called all those things or you just want an excuse to argue with them.

Frozted5/25/2015, 8:48:32 AM2 votes

I'd like to extend a personal anecdote. Earlier today, my support, Thresh, was on the edge of tilt, and it took the entire team, LITERALLY the entire team, to cheer this guy up and get him back into the game. He missed a few hooks and messed up a few play. He felt bad for it, and in this game there's no room for apologies, only results. I took a step forward and extended an invite for him to follow my pace. It was as if we were actually a team. Vi's 2/6, thresh's 1/3. But our team had a goal, and that was to stop Thresh from going on tilt. We worked together and we won the game. Sure enough, words may or may not hurt you, but I can bet my life that words definitely can heal. That's the power I want to have in my words. In games, or in life.

Angry Monster5/20/2015, 1:28:17 AM2 votes

What ever happened to sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me? Did school institute a word hurting program? People take verbal abuse thing a little to far.

Look there is a line that should not be crossed, i think league's community might make the line to blurry . I would say limit your self to what you would say in real life, but then again their are a lot of stupid people IRL(look at US congress).

KING OF MASKS5/20/2015, 5:33:41 AM2 votes

Words can definitely hurt, and verbal abuse is for the most part inexcusable (except when it's obviously sarcastic or some other circumstance). But at the same time, it's always within your power to develop some thicker skin and ignore it. I'm almost certainly in the minority, but it's really irritating to see these types of threads get so much blind support because to me they come off as incredibly infantilizing.

Human beings can be repulsively cruel sometimes. Either try to change human nature, or accept it and move on (protip: one of those options is impossible).

FooDang5/20/2015, 7:42:08 AM2 votes

{quoted}

Words hurt. Did you know that?

Words hurt....sensitive people...Did you know that? - fixed

junglerboy165/20/2015, 11:44:20 PM2 votes

Yeah, the people who quote a nursery rhyme to tell you words don't hurt are just clueless. On the other end of the spectrum, you have the people who know a thing or two about life who tell you this quote "The pen is mightier than the sword." This is true in every sense, it hurts more, it is more impactful to society, etc.

jDVL20eCYs5/24/2015, 12:06:12 AM2 votes

I'm sorry i have got hurted so much by words in my life, hard being gay, but never physical, maybe why I'm half immune to words make why I'm a bit insensitive and sarcastic, maybe why people love to down vote me and even bully me in games. basically one person being jerk is nothing but i had a game, where all 4 made fun of me and was being jerk. that was the only game i felt shitty. i had never even said something. they just decided to hate on me.

Ultra da boy5/20/2015, 10:07:30 PM2 votes

Riot should consider making duplicate playlists to the ones that already exist, except you're allowed to be toxic. A "dirty matchmaking", if you will. This way, everyone who loves to talk shit to their teammates and those who just cant resist the urge to throw a racial slur at a teammate or talk shit to the other team can go bask in games of his peers. They can all bump heads, achieve nothing, and not have to worry about losing out on their League experience.

The toxic kids can stay toxic and yell at each other with no worries of being banned, and the other playlists can stay friendly and can be changed to uphold a 0 tolerance policy to anything remotely toxic.

inb4 "oh dude then what prevents the toxic kids form just searching the non-toxic playlist?"

Zero. Tolerance. Bans.

Absolutely no toxicity. You think you're a tough guy and you want to go search the non-toxic playlist to troll? Okay. Get reported, And say goodbye to your account. I don't care how many skins you paid for, rules are rules.

AntiSkillshot5/20/2015, 10:17:45 PM2 votes

Words hurt. Did you know that?

Of course. "Hateful words sting like a sword, but kind words bring healing."

lDontLiftIcarry5/20/2015, 1:25:48 PM1 votes

I've treated my boss the same as any other person. The day you realize that everyone is treated equally is the same day you realize that people who shit talk are insecure.

If my boss feels like bullshitting with me I bullshit back. I'm not going to cower like some bitch. And he's not going to either.

Because in the real world, people aren't little pussies hurt by everything someone else says. Why? because most of the time no one actually means it, they're just bullshitting. Maybe you should catch up with the times.

people say exstremes on the internet because they know it fucks with you. And it's working so stop letting what some complete stranger you have literally no emotional/physical ties to bother you.

It's really that simple.

BakedLotion5/20/2015, 4:21:26 AM1 votes

If I had a kid, and hes crying cause someone said bad words to him. I would tell him to grow the fuck up LMFAO. That's how my whole family was treated with strict parents, and none of us give a crap about what others say. It's your own responsibility to make sure you don't get sad over online text.

"I hope you die" or "I hope you get cancer" Isn't going to increase your rate of getting any of those things. At all.