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Gf troubles

Aarin·7/5/2016, 10:14:59 AM·1 votes·907 views

I know what you guys are thinking "Why's he posting this on here?" Well mainly because I've been on this game for 3-4 years and I've grown to love the community in general. So I hope you guys are able to help.

I'm in a complicated relationship with my girlfriend, to start it off. I won't say I'm perfect because I know I'm not, I do have my flaws here and there but.. She has recently started to hide me, she hid me for 2 months straight but then finally stopped hiding me, as things were going good again I noticed she was hiding her phone non stop. Turning it away every time she picked it up, changing passwords left and right, and hiding it at times. So I finally got a chance to look through her phone (She let me, forgetting to delete something) I found that she was calling this guy "Baby" and saying "I love you" "Give me money, Shawn!" As I found this out I started to question her and she pretended it wasn't even there and she didn't even know a Shawn when I was staring straight at it.

As I was depressed, sad, and confused with a bit of anger, I told her to pack her stuff and go to her house (Basically dumped her for lying to me about something like this) A few hours later I noticed she remade a dating account on this site called meetme, but she messaged me a few after.. Saying she's sorry and everything and that Shawn is a Gay friend of hers and it's nothing serious and that she wouldn't cheat. So I forgave her because I love her, love makes you do crazy things man. As she spent more days at my house she is STILL secret about her phone and she is a complete a-hole whenever I ask or feel sad about something that I really just need to discuss with her. But as I ask her, all hell breaks loose and she gets angry, calling me horrible for asking a simple thing I really care about. I won't lie as she ignored me at my OWN house, I sat in the shower and cried a bit, wondering what to do.

I treat this girl amazing and give her full honesty and I know a guy can just say that to try getting you on his side but I'm not doing that, I truthfully mean it. I've been loyal and everything to this girl. Giving her gifts, talking to her 24/7, cuddling with her, talking HER problems out, just everything. But in the end she makes me feel like I'm Satan while she's hiding her phone, making a dating account literally 10 minutes after I take her home (wtf)?

But I really do love her, so the question I will ask is..

What do I do? Do I leave her and move on or what.. I don't know anymore, she means a lot to me but the fact she hides me and makes a dating account 10 minutes after I take her home is down right crazy.

I've been depressed about this for a while and she's sleeping on my couch right now. Mad at me for asking a simple question that a normal person would talk out with me. She's sleeping currently while I type this, basically ignored me and went to sleep at my OWN house.

What do I do, League?

(sorry it's long)

3 Comments

Draaaaaavéééééén7/5/2016, 10:40:43 AM3 votes

She's a slutty gold digger done.

EndlessBug7/5/2016, 11:45:14 AM3 votes

It's your life, but the fact you're asking this I think means you know the right answer but you're afraid of doing it (perfectly understandable btw)! It's very hard to break up with someone and hurt their feelings. I broke up with an ex 4 times before I managed to see it through, partly because I was afraid and partly because I still had residual feelings and listened to her telling me it would change (it never did and always slipped back to the old way). I regret not sticking with it the first time.

Some people like drama and will create it if you don't provide enough. It sounds like you're bending over backwards to make her happy, which is nice. But she is not returning the sentiment. In doing this you're telling her that she has control and can do what she likes.

Couples can get over a cheating instance, however it doesn't seem like that with you. She seems to have gone back to how it used to be.

P.s. She was probably doing the dating app to get to you. It either means that she doesn't care or that she's happy to try and manipulate you. Both cases are not on.

As the previous poster states, lots of people have multiple relationships, you can care for someone and not function as a couple correctly. I like to think that all my Ex's are happy and have met someone else. I have fond memories of all of them. However I also know that breaking up with them (or them with me) was entirely the right thing. The relationship I have with my girlfriend now is much better than any of theirs.

Ludovico7/5/2016, 11:07:30 AM2 votes

I´m sorry but the easiest way´d be to just dump her.

EDIT: I mean, broken trust takes FOREVER to "fix". The sad truth is, that most people have more than 1 relationship in their live. See it as becoming "normal".