You guys ever have that friend who's incredibly hard to talk to?

Melledoneus··1 votes·409 views

I don't mean the type of person who's annoying, or arrogant, or anything like that.

I mean the type of person who the habits or things you do, any of them could push their buttons and they get upset with you. And when they get upset, they go full "forget everything, I'm pissed now. Bye." The kind of person who you're scared to make upset, who you have to prepare yourself to even have a conversation for fear of actually doing or saying something stupid because you're used to people being more forgiving.

I don't know why I'm even posting this on the Boards. I recently made a friend like that (nobody on the Boards, don't start pointing fingers) upset with me, because of something I did that made him think I was being arrogant and dismissive. To be fair, I didn't realize it until it was too late, but now it's just eating away at me. I just wanted to write this to get it off my mind. It's a burden that I feel like if people know and can relate to, I can find some comfort in. If not, just leave a comment about a time when you made a friend upset and it bothered you.

I apologize if this seems like I'm wanting attention, it honestly isn't. I've tried to do everything else to get my mind off it, but now that I'm actually making a post to tell the world how I feel, I'm starting to feel a bit better. Hell, I actually smiled while I wrote that last sentence. Maybe now, after I make this post, I can finally get some sleep at 7:30 in the morning.

Any comments would be much appreciated. I just wrote this to get it all out, and hopefully I won't be so under the weather in a few hours.

8 Comments

TNHA Baritone1 votes

If you talk to someone and they are difficult and they piss you off when you make a mistake, delete them b/c real friends take the good and the bad :)

Melledoneus1 votes

Sometimes you don't have that option. And he's somebody I'd actually like to be friends with, since he isn't a jerk or anything. I think the rough childhood he had kind of gave him that kind of reaction to a lot of things.

TNHA Baritone1 votes

I have gone through this too. I actually couldn't be myself around this person and it made me wonder...what happens if I just stop being fake and just be real with them. I legit let them know how I feel and I asked them to understand how they'd feel if they were in my shoes.

It didn't work but it made me feel better knowing..."at least they know"

Melledoneus1 votes

Well, being myself around him led to me ticking him off, so there was that...

I just decided I'm going to straight-man it until something different arises from it.

Laughing Fish1 votes

I have a family member like that. http://i3.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/580/655/1d2.gif

You can do one of two things: 1: of you care about them, just learn their triggers and try to work around them. 2: if you don't, just say haters gonna hate and do whatever the hell you want.

Melledoneus1 votes

If this was a family member, this would be much easier. But as they say, you can choose your friends but not your family.

I think option 1 would mean testing the waters until I know my limits; I haven't been friends with this guy for too long, so there are a lot of things I have to learn about him. I guess that means playing it safe until I do.

If it doesn't work out, I wouldn't exactly resort to option 2, but I would call it quits and shake on acquaintances.

SoulOfTeemo1 votes

i have a (used to) friend that would get pissed off if you didnt agree with something they said, if you did bad, if you just pointed out something they did wrong. Im not friends with him anymore because of that.

Melledoneus1 votes

Man, that sounds rough. My friend didn't get pissed off if you disagreed, but if you push his buttons, even by accident, he flat-out expels you for a while. Well, that's one way to put it.

I never tried to point out something he did wrong directly, although I have seen him admit to his mistakes, so my situation is not as bad. He doesn't exactly hold grudges. He just... remembers stuff. Which kind of scares me.

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