Depression in college? (serious)

TekkenPlayer·2/4/2018, 12:57:21 PM·16 votes·1,907 views

Long story short, Ive been on antidepressants for awhile. No treatments seem to work at all even after months on end, but lately as a student I've not been getting anything done. I just either binge game or find ways to distract myself from everything I'm supposed to do. Waking up feels god awful, and doing any assignment triggers some alarm in my head telling me "I'm going to fail regardless, college is pointless, youll sit and stare dumbfounded for hours. You are the worst person out of X group." So I just try to distract myself with either exercising or league, but my work has been put off again and again. I've tried quitting league for a while so I could focus on important things, but everything just gets worse, including my productivity as well. Is there anyone that feels similar? Anyone that went through a situation like I am? (not that I'm calling my situation unique in anyway) Or just have an advice or a meme or two to lighten the situation?

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greekvandaL2/4/2018, 1:11:24 PM13 votes

A tip from me who also have suffered from depression. Don't get addicted t video games over it..I mean sometimes video games are fun but they arent healthy if you overdo it. Personally i used to play football( soccer you guys call it ) And i was pretty athletic but then depression happened i quit everything and i just feasted my day in video games and a few minor studies to pass classes.

Find an ACTIVE hobby that help you better yourself and also try to find a person be it a guy or a woman that helps you take your head off depression. For me per say atm are my 4 close friends and my girlfriend. How they help me? Well we got common interests be it music/Bodybuilding/soccer beeing %%%%s to people :P etc.

Personally that's the only way for me to overcome it or simply get ym head off it so it doesnt ruin my life. Dunno if it helps but that's my 2 cents and i wish you the best.

Smokin Penguin2/4/2018, 2:09:47 PM4 votes

Hey there friend sounds to me like you are doing something that is not giving you fulfillment at all.

Here is my advice for you First of all you need to start with a lot of SELF-REFLECTING

You are already in college so it would be a waste of a lot of money to quit, so i would suggest you try searching for something that you find fun and that you enjoy doing and after you do focus on that and building yourself up around that thing, it can be anything, music, art, entertainment,
If college is that much of toxic environment for you just quit college, cut your losses and move on
What i mean by that is, go back home work until you pay off whatever money you own and while you are doing that, plan your next move you don't have to work in a bar or a cafe, you can go work abroad try and experience new thing while also saving up some cash. While you are doing that maybe you will get inspired yo start your own business. Life doesn't have to be black and white!
You mentioned you exercise, why not exercise more instead of playing League, try getting in shape, running is a great way to clear your mind.
Do you go to the gym? If don't try going, if you do try going more often talk to some of the people there, make friendships along the way.
Once you confidence has risen try asking someone out get a girlfriend or a boyfriend.

But most importantly: QUIT THE DRUGS

Elbuns2/4/2018, 1:37:12 PM4 votes

It's a hard place to be. Keep exercising and try to eat as healthy as possible. These aren't fixes but can help. Do you have someone to talk to? Both friends and a counselor can do wonders, although it can be difficult to find a counselor who works at times. You have to take care of yourself. Talk to someone about maybe dropping to a lower course load as that might help. It would take longer to complete a degree but taking 5 or 6 years to do a degree is better than not finishing. The biggest thing is to keep going. Keep getting up, keep playing league, keep exercising, find people to talk to if you don't have that. Biggest thing is don't give up. You can do it and the night is darkest right before the dawn. It can be dark af but the light can pour in quickly too. Hit me up if you need someone to talk with and keep going. One of the best pieces of advice I got was that sometimes staying still is moving forward because you aren't going backwards.

Take care of yourself. Here's a comic I like http://explosm.net/comics/4825/

The Oasis2/4/2018, 6:07:06 PM3 votes

If you're depressed all the time and meds don't help, you might also consider seeing a counsellor.

Cipher2/4/2018, 4:14:10 PM3 votes

I'm sorry to tell you that there's no easy fix to what you're going through. There's a lot of good advice in this thread, but at the end of the day that won't matter if you can't find the strength to heed any of it. If people could just do a couple of easy things on a bullet point list to pull themselves out of a depression, then everyone would be doing it and nobody would be depressed.

That doesn't mean you should just lose hope and give up however. Take the advice people have given you and apply it to make your days just a little easier. Realize that you don't need to do everything perfectly and getting through a course with a low grade is infinitely better than giving up and dropping out completely.

Also, it's important to realize that when you wrote:

"I'm going to fail regardless, college is pointless, youll sit and stare dumbfounded for hours. You are the worst person out of X group"

What you're doing here is giving yourself an excuse to fail ahead of time, so the next time you have to make a choice between studying or playing games, you've already decided that in advance. It could very well be true that you're in over your head and that you won't be able to pass this course whatever you do, but you won't know that for sure until you've actually given it an honest go of it. If you give yourself an excuse before you even try, then you WILL eventually fail, not because you don't have what it takes, but because you didn't try your best.

I hope this makes sense, and take some comfort that this is something you're going through - which means eventually you'll come out on the other side of it.

Besteau2/4/2018, 6:51:43 PM3 votes

As someone who constantly goes through cycles of this, when a negative intrusive thought comes to, also find something positive about yourself. Be active, go for a quick run. Create a structured list of what needs to be done, but also don't pile everything on in one day. Stay away from electronic screens when feeling down because in my experience it harbors more inactivity and procrastination. If you need to do a paper go to the computer lab instead of doing it in your dorm. The lack of privacy can kick you into finishing those papers.

SEKAI2/4/2018, 2:58:59 PM3 votes

I have just gone through an electrical engineering bachelor degree, which I'd spent 6 years to complete a course that was scheduled to be completed in 4 years. And you know what it's like to have this kind of situation.

To spare you from me dumping you with my life story like the next NPC in Skyrim, and I'm sure there are others who have already touched on the more emotional side of support on this, so I'll share with you instead on what TO DO in getting you through the college, especially if you're stuck like I once was:

LESS MEMES. It isn't to say to get rid of your fun times entirely but you have to trim down your game time, party time, and all kinds of activities that will take significant amount of time. You can mess around a bit at the start of a semester, sure, but you will have to cut your distractions by at least 60-70% from your usuals by the mid-term, and gradually into 99% cut during the final exam period. Music can be excused if you work well with music, or at least certain genres in music that may help you aid during working; be honest to yourself on whether or not music will distract you as well as which kind of music may aid instead of distracting you and make plans accordingly, after all this is for you own benefit.
START EARLY. Always start early, do not leave it to the last seconds. The more work you put behind, the more work you have to catch up later in less amount of time than you previously had. Remember, a semester will only ever get busier into the semester and often the first half of the semester is the only time you will ever get free times to mess around with (this is especially true in engineering degrees, and also true for senior years in college like 3rd or 4th year for 4 year courses for instance). So seriously consider starting early whenever you could.
BE THAT GUY. I'm referring to that guy who exploits their lab partners and the occasional whoever that got stuck with you for whatever reason, into helping you with assignments, doing teaching sessions with you, and doing exam prep with you. Yes, you WILL be just like them. This may sound cheap and underhanded; hell, I thought so too; but you NEED this when your course is the type to pack challenges more than the capability of a mere 1 average person and group work is often the shadow pre-requisite of passing (such as what engineering degrees tend to be) and especially if you're not some 200+ IQ academic rambo who solos everything. I eventually came into terms with it, you see: It is not the problem to ask others for help when you're stuck, but it WILL be a problem if you just fail non-stop.
DO NOT COUNT YOUR MARKS. Counting how much you need to get to pass the course is not unusual, it gives a general idea on your overall performance and is also often a way to give you some reassurance on a few things; but what I mean is the kind of attitude where you count for how much mark you will need and only aim for that. NO, YOU DO NOT DO THAT. Because, you will always fall shorter than your personal expectation of yourself, or rather, you tend to overestimate yourself; so if you aim specifically at a "just pass", you will almost be guaranteed to fail, I'm serious. So YOU WILL AIM HIGHER; if you just want to just pass, work and do as if you're aiming for at least 20 to 25 marks higher than that. But more importantly, just try hard and get as much mark as possible, which it leads to...
JUST DO IT. Yes. Just get your head down, and Do It. You got time to cry about how you think you're going to fail anyway, you got time to finish the damn thing. Oh an assignment going to due and you haven't started for whatever reason? I don't care if you need to pull an all-nighter or even multiple all-nighters in a row, DO IT! Oh an exam coming up and you ain't sure about your confidence in the materials? I don't give a shit! Go through all the practice questions again like it's your morning coffee! And don't you DARE thinking about "I can let this go, can't be bothered" to whatever assignment you've got on your hands; if it's worth more than 2% of the final mark, it is worth 100% of your attention. DO IT! It isn't to say that you are stuck on your table 24/7, sure take the necessary break where you need in-between your studies, but you ain't going around thinking other things when you should get your shit together as a first priority. Focus your mind, take and deep breath and JUST. DO. IT!

notFREEfood2/4/2018, 6:43:57 PM2 votes

Been there done that.

I dropped out twice, but in the end I still got my degree.

I saw some people advising you to stay the course. Ignore them. You are not in a good headspace and you won't fix it by doing the same things that got you there in the first place. The first thing you should do is look up what hoops you would have to jump through to return if you drop out. If they're minimal then do it. Put yourself into a different environment and most importantly SEEK HELP. Once you feel like you've stabilized ask your school to be readmitted. Sticking around is just going to be expensive and if you flunk out returning will be significantly harder.

Pierce The Veal2/5/2018, 11:46:28 AM2 votes

Go for walks. Get outside. Take it slow, no need to rush your classes, delaying your graduation date is better than not graduating. Learn to appreciate life (slow process, but when you get there it just seems to click).

—from a guy who went through 11 years of depression, with final 3 years of being borderline suicidal and having to take antidepressants (which made things worse). Suddenly I found a breath of fresh air and regained hope by doing these things. Another thing that really helps is gettingaway from the environment you are in.

Potchikir2/4/2018, 1:28:43 PM2 votes

just stop yourself from saying ´´i will do it later´´ if you think you have to do something then do it at that time keep videogames and fun till you finish the stuff you need to do

Fisherman Fizz2/4/2018, 9:49:52 PM2 votes

Here's some general advice, a lot of it probably sounds generic but it can really help more than it sounds:

Take care of your body. Not sure what your habits are now, but if you aren't already doing so, make sure you're doing things like showering/shaving/brushing teeth/etc. Try to eat healthier, sleep at a decent time and as long as your body needs, and exercise. I know it's really generic advice, but it does help. A lot of the time depression makes you think there's no point in doing these things, and that ends up making your body feel worse and then you feel worse because of it. It's a hard cycle to break but if you can it will help at least a little bit.
Distraction. This is not a long term solution, but if you need short term relief distraction is the best method for doing so. Don't rely solely on distraction, but depression isn't something you can fix immediately and being able to distract yourself sometimes in the short term is important.
Medication. Have you tried any other antidepressants besides the one you're on now? Different ones work better for different people. Sometimes one med might not work well for you but another one could work really well. As a personal example, the first med I tried for anxiety wasn't very helpful to me, but after switching to something else it made a big difference and I'm back to feeling normal now. If you're able to I would talk to your doctor about trying other meds if your current one isn't doing it for you.
**Have someone close you can talk to.**If you can, having a therapist to talk to is extremely helpful. Since you're in school, there's a good chance they probably offer free counseling for students that your tuition is paying for. Take advantage of that if your school offers it. If you can't find one, the next best thing is having at least one really close friend or family member you feel comfortable confiding in.

Sorry it's a bit generic sounding advice, but hopefully it helps at least a little. College is generally a really stressful time for people. For most people it's the first time that they're ever really living on their own, and on top of that you're usually taking more difficult classes than before and have to manage them more independently. It's really difficult to get used to and depression/stress/anxiety are all common around this time, so you're not alone.

There's a really common phenomenon actually where many people, even after they've finished school, will have a really similar recurrent nightmare where they're near the end of a semester and suddenly remember they completely forgot about a class they have and they haven't done any work/studied for it. College is just really stressful.

Friendly Ram2/4/2018, 1:20:34 PM2 votes

I know what you're going through. It took me getting kicked out and going to community college to finally get my act together. Not sure how much help i can be but its not just you.

Colonel J2/5/2018, 12:03:27 AM2 votes

Some colleges provide therapy/treatment for their students, as silly as I find it, you should see if they have any.

swanington2/4/2018, 6:32:43 PM2 votes

When I can't get motivated to work on things I know I should be doing I find it helps to physically remove myself from my regular space. I go anywhere else. Coffee shop, park, library. Literally anywhere to put me mentally in a different state. Usually works well.

Pumping Iron2/4/2018, 6:43:50 PM2 votes

try to fuck bitches and smoke weed with few friends, you will feel better

edit: or just go to gym lol

Evil Yasuo2/5/2018, 2:40:50 AM1 votes

Yes actually. Your serotonin is low. Take something called St. John's wart.

Lanyr2/5/2018, 3:03:54 AM1 votes

Go and have your hormone levels checked, if you for whatever reason have sufficient deficiencies supplementing them could help.

Eat clean and exercise :)

Enselus2/5/2018, 3:09:40 AM1 votes

Ha, sounds like me. Minus the antidepressants. Been told for years that I show signs of depression, but never took it seriously. Been wondering lately tho

Unlimited Ninja2/5/2018, 6:34:32 AM1 votes

Was in the same place last year. Try to keep healthy by exercising and eating right. Study hard but its okay to take breaks. Have a set sleeping schedule because sleep helps a lot with stress. If you need someone to talk to just add me.

Dated2/5/2018, 7:34:59 AM1 votes

im the same. but when theres a due date. step back, walk to the kitchen eat something, think for a bit, and spend 2-5 hours just chilling and trying to finish the homework or project. no rush. before midterm, know a week in advance, and just get scared. I always just get scared a midterm or exam is coming up, fake it even if i dont care. sometimes i just need to walk around and think to myself. i completely understand. last semester i studied for all my exams the night before idk how i passed. but ive done it for so long its easy to cram. but i would be so much easier if i took it step by step so my brain doesnt get put in a corner where everything is hopeless. just chase that feeling after the project or midterm is over. chase that feeling of fk it im done with this garbage. :) i hope this helps and know that even when nobody is around u to give you postive energy that you are still an amazing person and are not alone. I even just bring up this kind of this to class mates. like how depressing a lab is or w.e xD everyone is strugling, i know it may not seem like it but college isnt a dream. for us who went through the education system this just feels like a chore. :) not saying to force positivity or some bs onto yourself but ease off before an assightment quiz, midterm or exam.

Irokaiser2/5/2018, 9:23:00 AM1 votes

Surrond yourself with positive people. Everything that involves you being alone for extended periods of time will NEVER help. Being alone only gives you time to focus more on your sadness. Give yourself like, 20 min a day to be sad, then put on a happy face and do things that make you happy with other people. Thats the best advice I can give.

Corrupt Bliss2/5/2018, 10:33:44 AM1 votes

I've been through a lot of similar feelings you and many others have already expressed. Throughout highschool my parents shipped me from therapist to therapist, anti-depressant to anti-depressant. Instead of improving I found my situation and emotions worsening. The anti-depressants made me tired, angry, etc. They always came with nasty side effects that I was tired of dealing with. Over the last six or so months I've come across various other solutions that, while are not a cure-all, have definitely helped me a lot. I went from staying in my bedroom for 15-18 hours a day, dropping out of college, and not responding to texts/calls, to being active, fit, and a lot happier. Add me IGN if you ever want to talk (this goes for anyone) -Corrupt Bliss

NocturnalSheild2/5/2018, 2:07:09 PM1 votes

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Long story short, Ive been on antidepressants for awhile. No treatments seem to work at all even after months on end, but lately as a student I've not been getting anything done. I just either binge game or find ways to distract myself from everything I'm supposed to do. Waking up feels god awful, and doing any assignment triggers some alarm in my head telling me "I'm going to fail regardless, college is pointless, youll sit and stare dumbfounded for hours. You are the worst person out of X group." So I just try to distract myself with either exercising or league, but my work has been put off again and again. I've tried quitting league for a while so I could focus on important things, but everything just gets worse, including my productivity as well. Is there anyone that feels similar? Anyone that went through a situation like I am? (not that I'm calling my situation unique in anyway) Or just have an advice or a meme or two to lighten the situation?

Honestly if i were you id just quit college.

Get your self a nice job like oil rig worker. Got a buddy that makes 6 figures working 3 weeks on 3 weeks off as a crane operator.

Does nothing but sit in a crane all day and yell at people to stop being idiots.

General Elephant2/5/2018, 2:15:47 PM1 votes

The thing that helped me the most was looking introspectively and assessing why I chose to do what I was doing. You have to come to the realization that your success is not optional, so things will hurt your chances of success are not optional. You have to realize that rationalizing away your chance at success only leaves you with failure. If you accept that finishing it isn't optional, then it makes it 1000% easier to just work on it. Or if you need a meme to remind you, just imagine any time you want to procrastinate that shia lebeauf is screaming "JUST DO IT" at you. School is tough, intrinsic motivation is tougher. You aren't alone in your struggles.

La Belle Sauvage2/5/2018, 2:27:49 PM1 votes

I empathize with you. The bet advice I can give beyond therapy and medication is walk out side in nature. There are plenty of studies about excercising outside and how it can elevate your mood. If you are interested you can read them.

However, I can tell you from first hand experience that walking in or near the woods has and continues to have a huge affect on my mood. Parks are just fine too.

I realize it's the winter months. Yet, if the temps are safe? Then just dress for the weather and get out in nature. Make it a habbit. By no means will this cure depression but it will help.

Lastly, I havev ADD and it went undiagnosed until Grad school. I can tell you from first hand experience, do not try to fight your distractions. In fact you need to embrace them.

Reconize this is something you struggle with and plan extra study/ home work time. You need to work around it.

swordofsun2/5/2018, 2:59:38 PM1 votes

Everyone is different, but here are some things to try/keep in mind.

If your school offers free therapy try it. Don't feel bad if you need to try a couple of counselors to find one that works for you. Sometimes just having an outside perspective can help you move forward, or at least not backwards. In the same vein you may need to mix up your medication. I went through like 6 different meds before one that worked for me.

One of the things that works for me is having one thing a day I do regardless of anything else. Even if I just sit in my pajamas all day and cuddle my dog while watching Youtube I will still take a shower. It's one simple thing I do every day regardless so I don't feel like a complete failure of a human being. I know some people who go outside for 30 minutes every day. Or do the dishes. Even just opening a window and leaving the bedroom. One thing you can do that is low effort, but makes you feel better. Hell, it can be brushing your teeth.

Try to eat things with nutrients in them. Avoid the junk if possible. I keep a stock of ramen and frozen peas for the days where that's all I can do. It's not great, but it's better than a bag of chips. Those microwavable bowls of soup are good too. Low effort, actual food. It makes a difference.

Don't be afraid to lean on your friends. Let them know you're having a hard time and if they can do anything. Even if it's just coming over and watching a movie with you. I find it useful to be pulled out of my depression cave, but maybe you would like someone to spend some time with you in your cave.

Set yourself a sleep schedule. Go to bed at X and wake up at Y. An erratic sleep schedule is hell on your mental health.

Speaking of depression caves. Don't set things up so you can do everything from one place in your dorm room/apartment/whatever. Make sure you have to move to do different tasks. Use your bed for sleep only, don't lay in it and watch tv/youtube/whatever or read or do homework. Make yourself leave it to do all of that. If you're in the dorm maybe make a point to take your homework to a common area everyday. I'm not saying you have to do your homework, but take it there for a visit. Spend as much time as you can. Eventually you'll get up to doing the homework.

If you're feeling up to it try to clean one thing a day. And by clean I mean maybe throw away some garbage, pick up a piece of clothing, wash a dish. Start small. No judgement, true story: I once let a bug live in my silverware drawer for two weeks because I just was not able to deal with it. I just used the same fork and spoon that was already out of the drawer. I was very disgusted with myself when the depression cloud lifted, but at the time it was just easier to wash the two pieces of silverware not in the drawer than to deal with the drawer. Do what you can do and don't get too down about the things you can't do. You'll get to them when you're able.

Edited to add: This is from 20+ years of clinical depression and 2 suicide attempts. One of the things I can say is that it might not get better, but it'll get easier because you'll get better at handling it. Once you start identifying the symptoms and signs of an upcoming episode be better able to brace yourself. You'll learn to identify the invasive thoughts. You'll figure out your support structure and coping mechanisms.

But really, talk to a therapist.

Kynin2/5/2018, 4:01:27 PM1 votes

It isnt for everyone but I had a huge issue with depression and anxiety when I started college I couldnt seem to recover from. I quickly became addicted to league, it seemed to take the worries away. It didnt help in the long term. I took a gap year to figure out what I wanted from life and it helped a lot. I dont play league as often and I feel much more prepared for the future.

Master Noct2/5/2018, 9:43:18 PM1 votes

As a person that's dealt with depression since I was 9 years old (thanks to the death of my dad, and a couple months later, of both my grandfather and grandmother), there's things to do that can help.

As much as gaming is fun and all, don't do it too much, you get into this vicious cycle of wanting to play more and more the worse you feel, therefore screwing your health up further.
Studies might not be of your top priority right now, but continue doing them, with a set schedule if it comes to it. You'll feel better once you see you are indeed doing great at what you're doing, and will make you further incentivized to do it.
Social life is a good aspect, specially if you have a group of friends to help you out during your problems or out of them, even if they are all online friends, some people will stick by you no matter what, and will try to make sure you are okay. I've had friendships online that have outlasted my normal friends (about 2-3 years actually!) Try to go out more, enjoy fun hobbies like drawing, painting, dancing, etc. It'll keep your mind off those certain thoughts that creep in your head.
Depending on your beliefs, religion might be a good choice too (I do not recommend or make people do this, this is all their own choice), some people like attending church, maybe praying a bit, perhaps reading their favorite choice of sacred scripts, etc. Maybe find yourself a couple of people with like-minded thought process to make you feel more included and part of something bigger!
Family is a good outlet too (if your family is good) for letting your feelings out. Sometimes you really just need to get things off your mind you wouldn't be able to spill the beans to someone else out of fear of feeling like a burden. Once you feel like they can/will help you as much as possible, you feel better knowing you have people that care very much for you. Same with SO's (significant others), maybe tell your girlfriend/boyfriend you've had trouble telling them something out of fear of being a pain, they'll appreciate your honesty, will try to help you, and have a little more trust in you since you've told them things they would expect to maybe not hear from you.
Eat healthier, do more exercise, and so on! Sometimes we get so deep into depression we forget to take care of ourselves because our mind is desperately trying to take care of just itself, ignoring body signals that point towards a larger problem. I can tell you I've had 3 near death experiences simply because I was too damned into being sad than actually telling myself "Dude, you can't do this anymore." and changing.

I'm not perfect, I still need to work on my depression, but thankfully I have the tools and the knowledge into making it easier for me, and for others with the same issues, and help them out too. So I hope you the best, and wish you get better soon, and keep at it! You are worth more than you think, I know this from experience.

P.S: Sorry for the wall of text, I just really like helping others in problems, so I went as in detail as I could.

Xion Moonray2/5/2018, 10:26:12 PM1 votes

Honestly, you probably shouldn't have gone to college. Too many kids are going when they should just get a job for a few years before deciding they're ready for it, if ever. I ended up making that mistake and all it accomplished was wasting time and college funds, ended up going again when I was 30 and did great.

Though it seems too late for that, unless you're willing to take the hit to your funds and then another hit later. But I wouldn't recommend that, I wouldn't want anyone taking the same road I did, it worked for me but at a heavy cost. At this point, the only thing I can advise you to do is keep your eyes on the goal, you're only in this for a few years.

I'm not exactly the best person to give advise, but I've been there, I made some bad choices, I did the same thing you're doing, and I paid the price. But I tried again later, and succeeded, so even if everything goes straight to hell, there's still hope.

Paíntchip2/4/2018, 1:45:02 PM1 votes

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Darius Strada2/4/2018, 4:24:42 PM1 votes

Remember, whenever you feel like a piece of shit, at least you're not a communist or a Paull brother

AquariusGine2/4/2018, 4:44:40 PM1 votes

I'm quitting League all together to improve myself

Iffy Jarl2/4/2018, 8:20:59 PM1 votes

Uninstall, or Give ur setup to your friend, or if you have a laptop hand ur mouse over

abca982/4/2018, 8:26:07 PM1 votes

I'm just gonna reccomend you to watch Neon Genesis Evangelion. You sound similar to me in a certain period of my life and that series helped me a lot.

Raven Redeemed2/4/2018, 8:49:41 PM1 votes

I haven’t had any really serious depression before (so take what I have to say with a grain of salt), but I certainly had some moments of brief depression/anxiety in college. Physical activity will cause your body to release endorphins. Not a perfect fix, but a common way to combat your current imbalanced brain chemistry. You could find a productive hobby which would help put you in the productive mindset and give you a sense of accomplishment to help springboard you back into your studies. You could find/hangout with friends who will not encourage you to procrastinate. You could find a friend/mentor/professor (a person who’s profession is teaching will often be more than happy to spare a little time) to talk with. You don’t have to solve all your problems with them, but talking about anything on a regular basis can help. You could try out a church/youth group. At the least you will probably find some nice people who are willing to talk and/or hangout.

Those are a few ideas I had. You are doing the right thing trying to fix things. Probably my favorite comic series if your looking for a laugh: http://www.talesofvaloran.com/comic/tales-of-valoran-001/

Ifneth2/4/2018, 9:10:04 PM1 votes

First, see a therapist. Only they can figure out your situation. Schedule appointments with a bunch of them and then choose the one you like best.

Second, if you can connect with friends and family, do it. Spend time outside with them while doing something, like eating lunch or taking a walk.

Third, if you feel despair, then call a hotline right away. They would be delighted to help someone before a crisis.

Here’s a hug. You’ll be OK. Lots of us on League have been through stuff like this. Talk to your gaming buddies if you’re close enough with them.

6Sfool2/4/2018, 9:49:30 PM1 votes

I went through it. That attitude got me kicked out of college, and I'm still tying to get back. The tip I'd give you is to pick a day every few days, and make it your productive day. Quitting League entirely never really works, because then you feel like you have to make your life miserable just to get your work done. Telling yourself "just one game then I'll do my work" never works either, because that game will always be too short or too tilting and will just ruin your mood. Just pick a day, tell yourself no games or netflix whatsoever until you're completely caught up on work, and even start future projects. If you get everything accomplished on that day you'll feel good about yourself and you'll help break the cycle of depression and missing assignments.

Whatever you do though, don't just shrug off your situation. Everything will NOT be fine unless you make it that way. Don't let yourself skip class even if you're not prepared to go. Don't give up, your professors will likely sympathize if they see you're struggling, but they have no patience for people who stop trying.

Wet Dryman2/4/2018, 10:56:13 PM1 votes

The first thing you should do is to visit psychiatrist or psychologist. If you have doubts about their competence change them for another ones. The earlier you do it the easier it will be for you to contaminate depression, prevent it from developing any further and ultimately get rid of it. Later stages are very hard to treat.

Second thing you might do is to think why you feel shitty, why would you fail at college etc. When you diagnose the cause of that thought just start practicing to get rid of the cause, try to be better and don't get discouraged that it's hard to do, you can't and stuff just try to do that. I was never diagnosed with depression but I had many long lasting insecurities that greatly affected my mood for years. For example I remember I was very upset for several years that I'm ultra dumb at Math to the point that I was called names by teachers and my classmates, I was afraid of school and thought that I'm stupid piece of shit so I started to practice. It took me some time to learn basics that I couldn't grasp before, took even more time to think mathematically but finally I did it and my greatest insecurity at that time vanished.

Third thing might be reading some optimistic philosophy. Nietzsche is the philosopher that helped me greatly through hard times, motivated me to constantly be better, love life, utilize bad situations/experiences to self-improvement , never surrender and see light there where one thinks is dark.

You should visit psychiatrist and/or psychologist immediately, there's no jokes with depression you need professional care. Try out my second and third advice only after you consult them with specialists and they are OK with it as I'm not expert in depression, who knows maybe these advices aren't appropriate for people suffering from depression.

Sky of Smiles2/4/2018, 11:23:35 PM1 votes

Watch Gintama?

Incognonymous2/5/2018, 1:34:40 AM1 votes

Psychological distress is common in higher education. My opinion is going to be an unpopular, because it's an only a slightly altered "idle mind" solution. Slightly altered, in that presumably you are studying a field you will be participating in for the rest of your life and are passionate about.

So, immerse yourself in it. Read textbooks. Read papers. Do research, teach, or tutor. Think about your ambitions, what you want to accomplish, what you want to do for your field. Don't be a bystander in your education, especially not because of a feeling of inadequacy-- that's exactly when you need to double down. The key to beating procrastination is routine.

-I go to bed at 11 p.m. -I wake up at 5 a.m. -I do PowerPoints in the morning -I go to class at the scheduled time -I read journals and textbooks in the afternoon -I do homework at night -etc.

I managed three majors in undergrad. Almost managed a 4.0 on my MS in Biochem and Mol Bio, we'll see once May rolls around. Already got application material in for an MBA in Business Studies. Part of it is passion-- I love learning, I love the subject I'm in. Find what you love. But it's more than that-- you can't let a bad day turn into a bad week. Everyone has low points, and to be honest things probably will get worse for you. It's not your situation that matters, it's how you respond. Everyone stumbles in life-- it's about getting back up, even when you don't want to. Especially if you don't want to.

Feeding Lesbian2/5/2018, 1:57:11 AM1 votes

I'm not sure it will help or not but here's a little of my story....

Before I started playing League sports were my life. I did twice a day workouts, ate well, and competed at one of the highest levels out there but all that changed when I destroyed my knee and all of a sudden everything that I had loved and lived for for as long as I can remember had been stripped away in an instant and I sunk into a depression. The meds the Drs gave me to help treat it didn't help, trying to find new passions didn't help... I couldn't even get out of bed most days and failed out of school because of it. I was hardstuck in my mind and I had 0 energy or motivation to do anything about it. The answer at that time was League. My friends encouraged me to start playing when they were on and even though I only could usually get out of bed for a few games I slowly started to want to get up for longer and practice to surprise them next time we played.

Slowly I got more into it and more energy to do it but I still very much lacked the will to do anything but. And from there I started doing little things to help in other areas of my life and everything did get better. I healed, I worked my ass off to get back into school and graduate and I found a job that I can show up for. It's still a struggle every day because I can always feel it tugging at me to sink back down and some days I'm not strong enough to resist it but that's ok. It's ok to not be ok. Take it one little step at a time and you will make progress and feel better for it.

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Blåbæret2/5/2018, 2:18:23 AM1 votes

Was in the same boat for a while when I moved to a new city, but got over it pretty quickly. The reason is that I have genuine interest in my field of study, so I found tranquility in reading my cirucculum. At first I didn't want to read, but then one day I stopped postponing and did it, and I had fun doing it. I learned a lot and figured out it wasn't bad at all. When I started to read my focus got sharpened and I felt like I now had a path to follow. I recommend immersing yourself in your study enviroment (join groups and parties with people in you field). You'll feel much better once you realize there are so many others there with you on the way.

Orangé Sapphire2/5/2018, 2:35:57 AM1 votes

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Long story short, Ive been on antidepressants for awhile. No treatments seem to work at all even after months on end, but lately as a student I've not been getting anything done. I just either binge game or find ways to distract myself from everything I'm supposed to do. Waking up feels god awful, and doing any assignment triggers some alarm in my head telling me "I'm going to fail regardless, college is pointless, youll sit and stare dumbfounded for hours. You are the worst person out of X group." So I just try to distract myself with either exercising or league, but my work has been put off again and again. I've tried quitting league for a while so I could focus on important things, but everything just gets worse, including my productivity as well. Is there anyone that feels similar? Anyone that went through a situation like I am? (not that I'm calling my situation unique in anyway) Or just have an advice or a meme or two to lighten the situation?

I won't say collage is for everyone but if you decide it is not for you, learn some skills so you won't have to work a minimum wage job. There are pleanty of skills out there such as Pharm Tech, LPN, Locksmith, Eletric and Heating and many more. Good luck