GD, I'm panicking.

LukeTheSheppy·9/25/2017, 4:13:51 AM·4 votes·576 views

It just hit me that in the next few months, I'm moving out of the state that I've called home for 15 years. I'm leaving behind family, friends, a roller derby team (yeah, fuckin laugh it up), and even the competitive local Melee scene I've worked so hard to foster. I'm just worried because this is the first time I've done anything like this. I remember very little of any home before the one in MD.

What happens if I don't fully embrace living down there? What if I miss home too much? The friends I have right now honestly mean the world to me, and the thought of never getting to do the dumb shit I do with them now, like going out to Melee locals as a travelling circus of shitty Melee players kills me.

I just need stuff to make me smile right now.

22 Comments

ZenithEevee9/25/2017, 4:38:27 AM2 votes

When you say "Down there"

Are you talking...

About the land down under?

Where the women glow and the men plunder?

And yes... Moving is a.. Drastic experience. Sometimes for the good, Sometimes for the bad..

But the fact is, You're putting this much effort in to be with someone that you gambled is worth it.

Be happy man, And hope that it stays that way.

zk0x9/25/2017, 6:17:29 AM2 votes

Smile!

Well, I understand that it'd be your first time. Remmeber, not many people who experienced it. If you experience it, it means you stretch your experience and knowledge. It's ALWAYS ok to start all over. There's nothing wrong with it. You got it.

Also, remember, you have so many options too.

Hope it helps!

[slayer-jinx-catface]

MoldyCheese19/25/2017, 4:30:43 AM1 votes

why talk about this on league boards, I'm not bitching, but this is more or less a facebook thing where people with similar experiences wound add input.

80% of the time on this there will be 14-year-olds trying to look cool and people with little knowledge about the situation, but whatever, all I can say is my own little quote:

Pain is temporary, death is forever.

do what you want with that, it's not meant to be "emo" or anything it's a god's honest view of life I use myself.

RubySpackle9/25/2017, 6:24:44 AM1 votes

dude

roller derby is sick

ModJikker9/25/2017, 1:49:22 PM1 votes

Well if it gives you any comfort, I left my home of 25 years in Maryland back in January to move out to Colorado with my husband. Not gonna lie -- it sucks a ton at first with everything you know or have known changing. I still get very sad and miss Maryland a lot. The important thing is to look at this as an adventure in your life and to make the most of it. You may not live in North Carolina for very long so enjoy each moment. Get busy with new activities, reach out to people and find new friends, join a new Melee group or plan trips to visit your old one, explore the area around you to find cool places to visit (are you gonna be near the beach???), find out what makes this new home special, heck maybe there's a roller derby there you can join.

It will be hard, but it will get better over time and soon you'll be making new memories. Don't get mad at yourself for missing home or friends. As my mom told me, if I didn't miss them, there would be something wrong =P Let yourself miss them, but make sure you don't miss this opportunity in your life =)

Support Evelynn9/25/2017, 1:57:45 PM1 votes

You get used to it, it's tough the first year or two but you'll begin to really enjoy your new location. Just don't think about what was better where you used to live, think of the opportunity where you are. I lived for 18 years on Long Island and have now been living in Florida for 5, I can say I'd never go back to Long Island.

TheSequelsRBad9/25/2017, 4:16:04 AM1 votes

Where are you moving?

Ðeath XIII9/25/2017, 5:34:32 PM1 votes

Did you meet a roller derby queen

The MechE9/25/2017, 4:17:15 AM1 votes

If you don't embrance living "down there" (wherever that is), then move back. Problem solved

I assume your move is job-related, so once you get some experience, you might have more options available to you.