So why do people ignore good advice....and it's not given in a rude way

WhyEvenBotherFR·7/23/2019, 2:11:53 AM·2 votes·2,065 views

I was WW jungle and I knew Lee was top side. Kled had no wards. I told him he needed to be careful and back up now because Lee was there and I wouldn't make it in time to help. He proceeded to engage the Jax and then got mad and flamed the rest of the game because Lee and Jax killed him. Stayed push in lane the whole time with no wards and flash and basically put the enemy jungler ahead and then called me a bad jungler despite having to go against a 1-0-2 Lee Sin at 5 minutes (I think by 10 minutes he had something close to 4 kills, I'd have to go back and check the numbers)......like I'm really no sure what goes through people's minds nowadays.

11 Comments

Investa7/23/2019, 5:56:59 PM2 votes

The League community is like social prison; it hardens people into worst manifestations of themselves. So, if you do give advice with earnest concern and helpfulness, it's likely to be interpreted as being snarky or sarcastic by virtue that most of the playerbase only gives advice with this in mind. It's like a few bad apples spoiling the bunch, except the bunch is the bad apples with the few being the good ones. People simply don't assume your best intentions in mind, while usually passing off your advice as poorly informed and that they know better; for you to stop telling them how to play the game.

I encountered this phenomenon myself, players presuming to tell me how to play my main but in the rudest and most passive aggressive way possible. It didn't matter if what they said had merit, because the integrity of their advice was destroyed the moment they pinged my items or "?" pinged my deaths. it's hard to see the good intent when you are simultaneously engaging in BM or flat out flaming me in the process.

We simply need to change the way we both approach other players in general, as well as how we reach to other players approaching us if we ever want engaging discussion to happen that isn't shit-flinging. Unfortunately it's going to take both of these, not just one side doing their part. People just need to treat others like they are people.

xox BaByDoLL xox7/23/2019, 2:22:20 AM1 votes

You know, people are human. Sure, sometimes people ignore you because they don't want to listen or some other hard-headed reason, but sometimes people honestly miss things in chat, or they try to do what you said but fail, or they're new and don't understand.

I had a friend get mad at me and the team earlier for not listening to them, and I felt really bad because I thought I was trying to do what he recommended, but I'm legit just not as good of a player as he is so I guess i failed.

Try asking again, don't rage at your team when they don't listen the first time and try not to get bitter and angry and quit on them.

The JigSAW7/23/2019, 2:48:19 AM1 votes

Its a complex I've noticed, in every single game, that at least one person in there thinks they know everything.

A day ago I played with someone who was gold last year, and this person and I were both attempting to explain the situation (politely) and the team wouldn't listen. In fact one of them wanted to report the guy because he said he couldn't carry them! its just so freakin' sad, I always tried to find people (and still do) higher ranked than I am to learn from them and get better but these players didn't want to listen to a former gold and a current gold. Hell in my case I just want to learn better techniques and engages with certain champions but these noobs in every sense of the word are throwing valuable advice out the window because somehow they think they know better. Its vastly worse now than years ago, too.

Tuition Fee7/23/2019, 3:33:54 AM1 votes

I asked a Pyke to ward dragon and the response was "Stfu and stop flaming or I'll run it down"

Zero Shingetsu7/23/2019, 4:56:53 AM1 votes

I ask myself this every time I suggest someone buy Executioner's Calling. My best guess in that case is, they follow a very specific build guide that works for streamers and pros, and they absolutely, stubbornly refuse to change it in the slightest. It's possible in other cases too that people are just stubborn.

CurS1VE7/23/2019, 6:34:55 PM1 votes

Really it's simple, this is a case of Pride; Pride is something that all of us have in some way and in Video Games in General you see a certain type of Pride in many players. I won't go into the Psychology or Sociology behind it but that is the root of it all.