What to do when you feel disconnected from everyone...?

Xeronator·1/22/2018, 6:26:34 AM·3 votes·1,780 views

I have been feeling pretty neglected for a long time, and I would like some answers how to deal with it better.

-My mom doesn't hug me, whenever I try to hug her she pushes me away from her. -Strict parents. -My relatives live far away from me so I honestly haven't seen them in ages. I can't remember the last time I visited them. -No gf. -No one to tell my problems to. -Friends don't text me. Yes I feel lonely all the time. -I soloque in league (even in norms) -I always feel like I annoy people (including crush) -In college I ALWAYS feel like I'm on my own with Calculus and 5 page essays.

Well that is just small background on why I feel like the way I am, anyone have any good suggestions?

No this is not a troll thread, this is 100% real and I do feel like this all the time.

23 Comments

EMPURE1/22/2018, 6:38:30 PM3 votes

I'm 24 and trust me, I've been there. Here's the thing, at your age you're still learning about yourself and how to play the game of life. I am as well, but I have more experience. Have you ever solo carried a game and felt good about yourself because you had to push yourself and nobody would help you? That's how life works. What you gain from that though, is the ability to have that confidence and knowledge to carry yourself every further. People will hurt you, life will hit you in the face, you'll get depressed, and you'll want to give up. You need to understand that where you are, is where you are meant to be. Learn from everything, but take things with a grain of salt because it doesn't define who you are, only you do that. So, you can either react positively, or negatively. When nobody wants to be with you, do something without them and build something. (Figuratively or literally) Build your life and do it by yourself, and for yourself. One day you'll look back, and they'll wonder how you've gotten so far. Life sucks sometimes, but you're the only person who can choose to react in a certain way. Do what you need to do, and you'll reap the rewards.

Don't worry about what's happening right now, just keep moving forward. I wish the best for you; I've been in a lot of dark times in my life and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It can be hard, depressing, scary, and discouraging. Keep moving forward, and stay determined. Best of luck, friend.

A Nunu1/22/2018, 7:35:07 AM3 votes

Re-invent yourself
Find new friends with interests the same as you do (you will have so much more to talk about)
Tell your parents how you actually feel. If there's anyone that really wants to hear about how you feel, it's them. They don't hate you, they're just strict.

Just a few ideas.

Bael the Riser1/22/2018, 7:30:21 AM2 votes

I'll be your friend, but whatever happens to you because of our friendship will not be my fault whatsoever.

Audhulma1/25/2018, 2:50:07 AM2 votes

Historically I just let it go. People will talk to me again when life calms down and they have time to, and I'm fine with that. Dealing with people in general is extremely taxing for me, so it's also helpful to me if I have solitude on a regular basis. On the off chance I'm actually feeling lonely (restless more likely) I can just talk to one of my cousins and we'll do something.

BeastMode Mikey3/19/2018, 4:24:27 AM2 votes

Imagine yourself 10 years from now. It's short term sacrifices for long term gain. Don't be the same person you were 10 years ago. Your future self will thank you for it.

HereComeSexyTime1/22/2018, 9:11:37 AM1 votes

Don't be a downer. What I mean by that is no matter how sad you are try and keep a smile on your face and look for the positive things in your life. I say this because having a friend that is always depressed and negative all the time tends to drive away friends.

As for your family...not sure what to tell you there. Sometimes we have families we would NEVER spend time with if they weren't related by blood. And are they just strict? Or are they religious and strict, because if its the latter then you are outta luck.

Busty Demoness1/23/2018, 1:55:06 AM1 votes

Browse GD or play a single player game.

The GD browsing helps me look for something to focus on. Playing a single player game guarantees I have something to focus on and typically helps me reorient afterwards.

TheRiddum1/22/2018, 9:45:08 AM1 votes

Focus on yourself! You seem to be doing s good job in school so focus on that. You are still young and at that age of finding yourself, you will meet lots of good people on your journey and the key is keeping those ones around. Not everyone has the best relationship with their parents so again just focus on yourself.
Don’t rush through life, enjoy every moment of it, relax. Go to social events that you are interested in...maybe your thinking of joining a boxing class(or any extra curricular activity)but never took the plunge? Welll do it! New experiences are the best way to meet new people and good friends.

Hèntaî 1/22/2018, 6:26:35 PM1 votes

You can talk to me fam. I got chu