Hi there,
I'm a young woman and I would like to respectfully chime in on this post and some of the comments other people made! I think some of my personal experience could really add to the conversation and make some of you guys realize things you don't quite understand as of now--which is actually quite normal since you've never gotten to experience them. Please note that nothing in the following post is intended as a personal attack to any man in this thread, and I would like to apologize in advance in case I come off slightly aggressive here or there. I'm not a native English speaker and certain things tend to come out wrong when I talk about a topic that is important to me!
First of all, some people seem to think that the only reason women don't play video games is because they're just naturally not interested in them. Now, I won't pretend to know everything and so I can't give my opinion as to whether "natural" interest plays a part in this. However, I can tell you of some of the other reasons women might not play (competitive) video games as much as men do:
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There is a history of video game companies actively marketing towards boys and men rather than girls and women.
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Personal experience (and things I've heard from female friends) seems to show that most girls aren't "encouraged" by their parents to play video games. Some are even actively discouraged, and that doesn't seem to happen nearly as much with boys. For instance, I have a friend who liked video games just as much as her little brother. However, when her parents bought a console for the family, they officially gifted it to the brother. Maybe it had to do with the fact that it was marketed as a boy's toy.
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There is a lot of social pressure to conform, especially in secondary school (don't really know what the equivalent is but like 12 to 16 years of age approximately). Therefore, girls that might have had an interest for video games before sometimes get bullied for being "abnormal" by others and quite literally end up getting--or letting themselves be--bullied out of playing video games.
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Older family members sometimes intentionally make me feel that I'm not girly enough or that I'm tomboyish because I play video games. There is nothing inherently wrong with being a tomboy, but the fact that you get categorized kind of as a boy for playing games does show there is a societal (negative) bias towards women that have gaming as a hobby.
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It is fairly mentally exhausting to play video games as a woman. I constantly have to justify myself and get lumped in with all the "gamer girls" the moment I try to join a conversation regarding gaming. People will often ask for a list of the games I play and my rank in the competitive ones. If I'm not good enough for them or play games they deem to casual or mainstream, I'm told I'm not a "real" gamer. Now, I'm not saying this happens all the time, but it does happen, and it's a little sad when some of my friends have to defend me from some guy who only plays COD and Overwatch telling me I'm not part of the gaming community.
Second, I'd like to touch upon the issue of hiding your gender online. It is not always possible for a girl or a woman to hide the fact that she is female. For example, you can think about games with voice chat. Unless you use a voice changer, which is very likely to make you sound weird and make others mock you for using one, your voice will probably give your gender away. Now, I could always avoid using VC, but it often puts you at quite the disadvantage in competitive games where it is commonly used. Besides, I shouldn't have to restrain from using some of the features just because I was born with a vagina.
Lastly, I would go as far as saying that it is downright unfair and sexist to imply that women are at fault for being discriminated against if they reveal their gender. When one gender has to hide itself in order not to get hate, but the other can claim it loud without consequences, that is quite literally one of the most obvious examples of sexism I could think of. Of course, I'm not saying to go walking around with a username such as DarknessBabe or something along those lines and join every lobby claiming that you've got tits. That's just attention seeking, and nobody likes attention whores. But sometimes, for one reason or another, your gender happens to get revealed, and it should never be a big deal if it does. I mentioned earlier that I wasn't a native English speaker. I'm a French speaker. And see, most things are gendered in French and I know for a fact that things are the same in many other languages. That means that, if people happen to be gaming in another language than English, women would have to go out of their way to break their habit and write in the masculine form whenever they make a comment about themselves. That sounds a little harsh, doesn't it? Blaming women for the sexism they face online is really just another form of victim-blaming, and that is never okay.
TL;DR - I guess what I'm trying to say is that yes, maybe women are naturally less inclined to play video games, but discrimination definitely contributes to make things worse. Moreover, blaming girls when they get harassed because you think they should've gone out of their way to hide something men don't have to hide is blatant sexism, and if you hold those views, you might wanna take a step back and reevaluate a few things.
I hope everyone can understand where I'm coming from, and I'm definitely open to discussion so long as replies are respectful! :-) Good luck to everyone on the Rift!
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