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Losing friends over League

PigMan0210·7/5/2018, 6:35:59 PM·9 votes·7,505 views

I had some bad shit happen. I had a friend for 4 years. I'll call him SaThena. he was still one of my closest friends. I was first pick mid lane and He was 4th pick jungle. I had picked Lux because I was mastery 7 with her and he picked Vi. The game was going great! We were winning with 4 kills to zero, until or Gnar top lane started to fall behind to the Yasuo. Gnar was tower diving, not trying to cs, engaging way to much on Yasuo, and generally, getting way to far behind. I was fine with this, because I was only playing for fun. SaThena on the other hand was furious. He was flaming the Gnar and making everyone on the team go against him to the point that he started yelling at me to back him up in the fight even though I knew he was wrong. I'm a very sensitive person, so when people start yelling at me I basically go into a mental breakdown stage. SaThena came to gank my lane because he thought that stopping zed early game would help in the late game which I agreed with, but he ganked every time I wasn't in lane. He started flaming me now because he was mad that he kept dying to my zed under tower. He started blaming me for the game. He started calling me names, hurting my feelings, and other stuff. He said "you are so shit at this game. Why do you even play it?! You should just quit." Him being one of my best friends, this hurt me a lot. To the point that I started crying. I cried from the 17 minute mark until the end of the game at the 32 minute mark. All during that time, he was calling me a baby for crying, and making fun of me. At the end of the game, he started blaming me for the loss. And he started yelling again. I tried to ignore him but he wouldn't stop. Its like he was standing right next to me and screaming in my ear. To sum it all up, at the end of the game, he called me a crybaby, said I should never play again, blocked me on league, and said he would never play with such a dipshit again. The riot community is way to toxic. Its just a game. you don't need to get mad over it. I'm Sorry to anyone who read this. I didn't mean to waste your time.

27 Comments

RamenDaddy7/5/2018, 6:39:37 PM19 votes

He wasn't a real friend lmao. If you've played with him for 4 years and he thinks that a game is enough to determine that you guys aren't 'friends' anymore, he wasn't truly your friend in the first place. It may sting now, but at least you found out now rather than later down the line.

Teémò7/5/2018, 6:44:06 PM6 votes

Had a friend that was an annie one trick. I was playing veigar support and ulted the akali as she died. She went crazy on me for "stealing the kill" and deleted me never to talk again. [zombie-nunu-bummed] Sometimes your better off with out them when they show their real colors. I do miss all the trolly stuff we used to do.

xXDaBoozeXx7/6/2018, 4:24:28 AM3 votes

I guess you can say he said "GoodVI"

HalcyonDweller7/5/2018, 7:58:33 PM3 votes

That dude sounds like a real shitter, you deserve better friends.

Sairek Ceareste7/6/2018, 3:04:12 AM3 votes

I used to be friends on League with Riot PsyonicHero before he actually became a Rioter. I knew him due to being a friend of another friend, if anyone knows who "DiggitySC" is. Used to be a famous Starcraft 1 commentator when that was a thing.

This was back in probably season 1 I think, or season 2. It was my first ranked game, and as per circumstance, my internet went out. So I asked my brother to help finish the game for me on his side because I didn't want to leave the game a 4v5. It was without a doubt a loss though, my brother could only do so much playing a champion he didn't know, in a role he didn't know when thrust half way through the match, though I was sort of coaching him what to do on my side.

During this time, I could still hear him and his other friends over voice comms, and wow, the shit he and they were saying about me (and my brother, technically, but they didn't know it was him playing now because I was still trying to communicate with my brother to help salvage the game despite the heat I was getting). It was definitely the last time I spoke and played with him again. Off my friends list after that.

I was annoyed when like two days later I saw he was becoming a Rioter, although I realized a few more days later that I probably dodged a huge fucking bullet because he swiftly got fired for an outburst during a match he was streaming where he verbally abused another player (what happened to that player is basically what happened to me over voice comms) and banned the player after verbally abusing them for a month. Had he been a Rioter a couple days earlier, the one who got unjustifiably banned could had been me, and there would have been no evidence of that over the voice comms compared to the in-game chat. People can go read that story up if they want. Maybe a vod of what still exists somewhere.

This is the original thread that got him fired by the way: http://forums.na.leagueoflegends.com/board/showthread.php?t=451882&page=1

ThıghConnoısseur7/6/2018, 4:37:57 AM3 votes

Hate to say it, but if your “friend” does this after 4 years of talking them this person wasn’t ever really your friend

Gooliope7/6/2018, 6:45:55 AM2 votes

Don't be upset and just be glad you no longer have to deal with him ever again. If he was mocking you for crying and was toxic over a GAME. Could you imagine how he would have been like in an important situation IRL? A true best friend will never make you feel awful over something as petty as a game. Don't accept his apology and just keep him out of your life. I have a feeling you're the type of person who will forgive his actions, but he won't do the same for you. He's dumb for losing a friend of 4 years over 1 league match. You'll find a true friend eventually. If you need a friend to play league with you, feel free to add me as that friend. [sg-ahri-2]

Modl Ryden l7/5/2018, 11:42:12 PM2 votes

Not really but I do distance myself from them when it comes to league. Because I know, no matter what, whether or not I smurf with them, we're going to be matched against a team of a mixed bag of ranks, generally higher ranks, and I'm gonna be responsible for carrying the team, otherwise everyone is bummed out, no one wants to play, morality is super low, my mood crashes, then I no longer have a desire to play.

Like for real, one of my friends wanted to be part of our Clash Team. He's a good fella, but he doesn't have what it takes to sit down, learn more about the game, his role, his champ. He also never bothered doing his placement matches when we kept reminding him.

He's comfortable being a "season 1 veteran" despite only having played Seasons 1, 2, briefly for 3, stopped playing altogether for seasons 4, 5, 6, and 7, trash talking the game, preaching how HotS is superior to League. It never ends. It always cycles down to, "Well back in season 1 we never had to deal with this bullshit. I'm an OG player, I know what all these things do." but he doesn't. He still rush Sunfire Cape on most tanks, he always cries when he jungles and ONE camp gets poached. He runs away at the sight of an enemy, despite playing tanky, long ranged champs, or even when allies are directly behind him.

AND THEN!

When you try to tell him to do something, like to calm down, or ward, or tp, or last hit, or follow up, or do dragon. he fucking FLIPS. He'll ask you to get off his back and to quit back seating him. It's a a terrible experience. Half the reason why I play with him is because I have other friends, who are relatively good at the game, generally on my level when it comes to calls, plays, compositions, but this other kid is on a whole new level of low.

To put it in perspective, the first time my usual group of friends decided to solo queue ranked to see where we stood, I got placed Bronze III, a friend of mine got placed in Bronze I, but the kid I've been complaining about in my comment, he got placed Silver V.

Then everyone else decided to rank up, we all hit Gold+, him? He was still Still Silver V, and he was happy with it. The point is, he has a fixed mindset and only wants fun when he can get it, he doesn't try to make fun out of something. He takes victories as small "hoorays" with a "hey guys didja like how I silenced that one champ in a teamfight? man I love this champ." and takes defeats as a "That's complete bullshit, they need to hotfix my champ, he's very underperforming when all these other fuckers are running around ruining the game!"

But have I lost a friend? IRL, no. In LoL? Probably.

Theorchero7/5/2018, 7:22:33 PM2 votes

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HàrrowR7/6/2018, 6:14:17 PM2 votes

My best friend got so mad one game he punched a floor and broke his arm,he blamed me lol for not saying miss for a jungler,we are still best friends though 5 years later,real friendships dont break over one game,its like you playing monopoly,losing and then not talk to those friends you played with again,its beyond stupid and childish

GarenStoleMyBike7/5/2018, 7:40:25 PM2 votes

It's like having a gf online, non existence. You can't compare online over irl. IRL > Online

Nevurwin7/5/2018, 7:24:15 PM2 votes

Did this person ever express negativity like that before? That's odd for them to outburst like that especially if you've been playing with them for 4 years. Is it possible that wasn't your friend playing?

Regardless, its fucked up. I don't know why so many people are 2-faced like that.

Drugoth9/10/2018, 1:57:56 AM1 votes

Jesus, with friends like that, who needs enemies? Am I right? I also had a RL friend who turned out to be a toxic cesspool in the game, eventually I got tired of his stupidity and just gave up and let the friendship go. His fuse was way too short and he just had zero conscience when he would go into one of his tirades.

Relia Fortune7/5/2018, 10:20:21 PM1 votes

I had a friend remove me because I told him "don't fail your gold promos again" jokingly. Rip

Audhulma7/6/2018, 2:27:33 AM1 votes

Never had this problem, but in general I'm a pretty decent judge of character on that front, and don't really get involved with people who would do this sort of thing. You shouldn't worry about it too much honestly, you can throw a pebble into a crowd and find another person like that, you don't need him. There are loads better out there who you can have fun playing with - in fact, just go into recruitment and pick a group, there's a good chance you'll find somebody that sticks.

The closest I've come to this has nothing to do with the other person raging, and it happened way back on OG runescape. I was like 15 at the time, and had become pretty good friends with a girl from Canada - long story short she was talking to me about various issues, and the topic of whether or not she was intentionally acting like a slut came up somehow. She got kind of offended (not my most well thought up response lol) and disappeared for a couple days, but we smoothed things over afterwards.

Now that I think about it, at that point in time it seems like everybody and their mother was coming to me to hash out their issues, even the 5 adults 40+yrs old I knew there. Dunno wtf that was all about, why me?

4 Step Cadence7/6/2018, 3:47:27 AM1 votes

I've met a lot of "good" people on League. Mostly guys, but that's fine. I get alone better with guys anyway, but that creates problems since I'm female. Once, I played a game with a premade. They were actually a casual team, and they invited me to join as their ADC. They always referred to me as "he". This was before I got my mic working so they didn't know I was female until I told the team captain/top laner, who I was closer to, that he'd been getting carried by a girl this whole time. At first, things were fine. There was some minor shipping happening between be and the top laner, but it didn't bother us. We flirted some, but there wasn't anything serious between us. What ended the friendship was me saying "okay" as a response to him telling me a girl he liked from his school was flirting with him. I didn't care, but he thought I was jealous and started fighting with me about it. I eventually just said "fuck this" and removed him, as I didn't want to deal with him doing that shit. There was a lot of other stuff that happened in between that I don't remember, or don't want to share on the boards.

NekoniClaws7/6/2018, 11:41:17 AM1 votes

That guy sounds like a ticking timebomb, I wouldn't take it personally. But I really do understand how you must feel...

I sort of lost friends recently... . Well, it was my old-duo's boyfriend and his group.

So I was playing league- my power was running off a generator for my dad's medical supplies because we'd had a house fire nearly two weeks before--- I'm beyond miserable. So I want to play with my duo in the couple hours I have power, and she asks if it's ok for her boyfriend and co do join- we lose a bunch and I'm hyper-depressed and crying 'please, just ff guys so I can go to bed... I should have just gone to bed...' (I was pretty close to this point for about an hour) and... one of my duo's bf's group is just... well they don't surrender. So I mute myself to hide the crying, the game ends, I see my duo's BF typing in discord and block him before he can start telling me off (he's not the type to show compassion, ever). Well, he's never forgiven me for blocking him for that moment. Neither has his friends. Because I had to put... my mental health first at a very dark moment and didn't risk the impact of what he was typing.

He and I've had stresses before, ever since I ranked gold5 last season, and my duo (his girlfriend) asked us to all play a ranked flex Q together--- to put it simply, we lost in silver MMR because no-one collaborated (I wasn't alone in being disappointed by this or pointing it out). After a while, he's calling me a 'tryhard' to his girlfriend, and she (my duo) is convinced, and she's telling me off continuously for being arrogant, thinking I'm so good, even tells me I'm boosted-. The boyfriend is getting offended every time I shotcall or ping something on the map (apparently has been for a WHILE). I stopped playing meta completely- I opened my champ pool up and played as chill as I could, but it wasn't enough. Eventually whenever I played with him, if I pinged something he'd do the opposite. If I pinged Baron, he'd split bot (as example). We played together less and less, and when we did they'd start isolating where I play. The boyfriend would also freely rib me, 'that's a silver decision', and when I started to rib back, I stepped over a line I didn't realize. My duo eventually stopped playing with me, and the few games after the fire were the last straw. What's worse... after they ditched me, my friends still wanted to play with them...

... So I had to sit it out... wave and smile happily for them and say... 'Have fun!'... 'It's OK! You guys will have a great experience! I'll play solo... see you another day!' ....

I'm still friends with my duo, but I took her off my league friends list and discords... I finally had to explain it to her, when she accused League of 'ending a friendship' and told me how it'd changed me into an asshole, that the only reason I can't stand seeing her on league is because when I see her playing with everyone I've lost... it freaking hurts... and I'm also reminded that if I ever want to visit her in person... if she ever got MARRIED... her boyfriend... his friends... they're the same people who have exiled me. It spins me -completely- into depression every time I'm made to think about it. No, they don't owe me their friendship... but I thought... we were more than strangers, I thought we could forgive eachother those times we were a**holes or insufferable downers.

There was even someone special in his friends' group. I was asked not to tell them, because they'd flaunt winning me over. Now, I can't. They don't know they've rejected me as a person. And all I wish is that I could tell them so they could always know they were so deeply appreciated they were... so they could carry that with them for when they themselves didn't feel strong.

So... yeah. I know how you feel. I really do.