Kinda agree, just that the way you put it sounds like it's not the jungler's job to care about lanes.
Cause frankly, it IS the junglers job to help put lanes.
This does not mean that he automatically decides lane for you, nor that he can turn around a 0-4 feeding lane, but a jungler has to do more than farming his jungle and eventually going to dragon just to notice that the opponents have more pressure and it would be to risky...
While a jungler does not have to camp every lane, he should have some impact.
That means either sticking to the winning lanes and trying to snowball them even more, getting some feed your self in the process, or tilting an even lane or helping a loosing lane to not get crushed completely, or just counterjungle.
and no, counterjungleing is not takeing the wraithcamp and leaving one of the little ones, counerjungleing inclouds atleast some deapwards and ,if on the bluebuff side, a wolf ghost. The purpose of counterjungleing is less to deny farm from the other jungler, but to get vision on him and maybe force him out of his jungle or even kill him, with other words: the aim of counterjungleing is to make it harder for the opponent to pull of succesfull ganks, which is why counterjungle often is colsely related to counter ganks.
Since the vision changes, it is impossible for laners to keep their lanes wared, they are really vulnerable to ganks. The best way to provide security is getting vision on the enemy jungle, so you know on which half of the map the jungler is, giving your laners opportunities to be aggressive without fearing the jungler.
A big mistake many junglers do is thinking that ganks are only good for kills. If you have a loosing lane, just showing up as a big minionwave hits the tower and zoneing away the opponent helps your laner alot to savely pick up the farm and xp.
Same the other way around, showing up in an even or winning lane just to zone the oppoent away from farm and evt takeing a tower can have a huge impact on the lane without any kill.
What really makes a good jungler is knowing when to gank a loosing lane, and then to drop it and focus on other lanes, when to counterjungle or countergank and mostly when to 'just be there'
Just for clearity: i totally agree that going 0-5 can't be fully blaimed on the jungler, and that there are situations in which a lane has to be abandoned, and if 2lanes are loosing and the 3ed isn't winning hard, there is nothing the jungler can do.
However, that does not mean that it is nevert the junglers fault that a lane looses. Especially toplane, there are many snowbally matchups, where who ever gets the first kill will totally dominate, and 2v1 towerdives are easily done. If there is such a matchup and you ignore it as a jungler, don't be upset if top maybe looks 0-4 15 min into the game because the opposing jungler did camp that lane.
And if you didn't snowball another lane duering that time, when it was your fault as the opposing jungler had the better decision makeing and thus way more impact.