help being a leader

Lockenster·12/21/2014, 1:39:34 PM·2 votes·666 views

i'm a very good player but i have one major flaw which is i'm not a good leader

i'm good at telling people to get obj when we need to but every time i tell someone what to do its seem they rage at me. yes i do kinda rage at them but its more like constructive when i'm not going all toxic mode(which i do admit i do sometimes) i want to learn how to be a better leader when i'm losing especially because there i need to be one the most.

5 Comments

Ghiefelstein12/21/2014, 4:39:25 PM2 votes

Can you give an example of what you say in game?

Some things that work for me:

Direct your comments to the entire team and not to a single player. "Let's group and push mid." instead of "Riven, stop going top, we need you mid."
Emphasize that you are leading because you want to win. Almost every player has the goal to win, but they tend to forget that in a heated moment or when they are doing badly. "Lucian, stop blaming the jungler, it is not helping us win."
Support suggestions from your teammates, even if you don't always agree with them. I rather follow a bad call with the whole team than a good call with half the team.
Realize that teammates have different ideas about the best calls. They legitimately think they are doing the best thing. You cannot always convince them in a few lines of chat, especially if they get defensive. You can try to lead, but it won't work 100% of the time.
Be positive before you start leading. Maybe start the game with a joke or wish everyone good luck. People tend to listen to positive players. I am terrible at making calls, but people still listen to me because I have a teamwork banner.
Talk to other players like you want to be talked to. Would you improve if someone said the same thing to you?

I hope that helps :).

Leti the Yeti12/21/2014, 1:54:06 PM1 votes

I just joke around and hope it gets the message across in a nicer way "Listen up, I'm fking Nasus, I'ved lived for thousands of years making me wiser than you, while you(Nidalee) look like ur 20 or something" sometimes you have to scold them on mistakes in a nicer way "Lucian, wtf, you had the balls of a white guy during that fight"

Humour makes you less bossy, I guess No one wants that stern ass boss

Trinityunicorn12/21/2014, 2:05:27 PM1 votes

we need

I'm more apt to follow someone if they state that "we need to do this or that" we need to focus xxx we need to get dragon, we need to push mid.

However if someone says you need to do this, or starts saying negatives, I'm more apt to just tune them out or try.

The first way is giving people the option of joining you in an endeavor, the second is a way of trying to command someone saying you know best. The first way people are free to accept or reject the idea, the second way is forced upon them.

"We" is inclusive and more of an invitation to join, "you" is more selective and separating, singling out. I'm more apt to listen to someone that doesn't judge the situation or the people in it------>they appear to have more sense! :-)

I'm sure there are a lot of other ideas, some may be much better, I hope you find what you're looking for.

Saevum12/21/2014, 2:14:09 PM1 votes

Going numbers works sometimes:

Dra 12:57 - 1257

Ba 37:50 - 3750

Enem blu 7:20~

Enem red 8:40~

our blu: 7:15~

our red: 8:35~

etc.

Cant help you with people who do not want to listen nor build what is needed to be built:

example:

you: "enemy 3 ap, we will need aegis"

supp leona: "nah i dont think so, we r fine" etc.