People need to learn how to enjoy losing games.
This game is high stakes, everyone is in it to win and when things feel out of your control, you become bitter and angry. People don't realize how much their mentality comes into play when they are losing. You play ranked and expect to win, yet there is no emphasis or accountability for yourself, your psychological relationship with the que up button is one of luck. You gamble away, you expect the win to be handed to you on a silver platter and if not you feel sick. You lash out at your team mates because your performance is mediocre and they are doing worse, so it must be their fault you aren't thrashing right?
What if I told you, you could enjoy the game while your losing. How? you might ask with skepticism, which is completely warranted as we have hardwired ourselves to either consider your team as liabilities or assets, depending on whether you win or lose. First I want you to completely distance yourself from the concept of winning and losing, look at it from the bigger perspective, no matter what, you are going to lose games, that's just a fact everyone has to deal with. If you can accept that, why do you still feel so gross in a losing game, you have to admit when things seemed promising at the beginning of a match, you had this fresh mentality, but as soon as something negative happened in game it's like the flip is switched and even worser things come from it.
Your performance after you were tilted becomes worse and you make plays out of anger and rashness, or you play out of fear and cowardice, there is no balance. Do not let the events in game control you, recognize your triggers and identify countermeasures, when losing people tend to rage and flame or spam ping. A useful tip is to type /muteall at the beginning of a match and if someone spam pings you just mute their ping. It can be hard to do this because we have such a habitual relationship to this rage/flame cycle. So yes no matter what you will lose games, accept this. Also do not give up in losing games, yet do not expect to win, this is a fine line and it is imperative you identify it, because your emotions must be controlled
When you are losing you must identify what things you did that led to your demise, one of the best players in solo que once stated that the perfect player has a 75 percent win rate at the highest rating. That means that there is an element of luck which you seemingly cannot control, so loss is inevitable, but this is apart of life. Now that we know we can have complete and supreme influence over 75 percent of our games, that should be relieving right? A 75 percent win rate is not something to feel bad about, its something good. But most people don't have this win rate and in this tangible bracket they have lost games where they have control, yet they do not use it correctly, and despite this fact they place their focus outside of their selves and onto their team mates.
You must look at league from a growth mindset, not a fixed one, you can improve yourself each game and make it that much more enjoyable if you identify the fact that you can be better and you can win most games if you learn how. Look at things in an order of events, what lead to what, what were my intentions and why was that a bad idea. After each mistake you make you should immediately process a solution, not resort to raging in chat. Losing should be a relief because it is an opportunity to identify the things you have done wrong. Do you really want to win when you have made mistakes the enemy just failed to exploit? That is the 45-55 win rate bracket mentality, happy if you perform slightly above average, unhappy of you perform slightly below.
Hold yourself accountable, for your mistakes only, do not hold someone else accountable for theirs, everything is done in hindsight, someone on your team makes a mistake you look back at it after 5 seconds and you flame them. Switch that energy onto your self and who you're versing, recognize only your enemy teams mistakes, and learn to understand their movements and patterns. Focus only on them like a hunter focuses on their pray. It is them you are versing not your team. Many players report the experience of being stuck, they accept they cannot win and just wait for the game to end. It is fine to know when you have lost, but control your emotions, redirect it from the bitterness or gloom and put it into a simulation of everything that happened and what to do next time. Be excited for the next game, every game is a learning experience you are not being punished, you are being gifted with the oppurtunity to learn and grow.
